Advice in a Relationship

[fartboy88]

I need some help from someone who has a gf and has managed to bring up their fart fetish. See the girl I'm with now, I gotta say, I'm happy I really am she's all I could ask for. I think she might be into this to, but I don't want to risk anything. I'd just like to know how you manage to bring up the fact that you think it's sexy when a girl farts, or even how you're on the submissive side.

Anyone who is willing to offer advise to me I'd be greatful beyond explanation.

[tehcursed]

It really is about the timing man. If you make it all seem natural and NO PRESSURE then why would a girl not want to do something actually "simple" that turns on her man? A relationship with a healthy sex life is a mutual one, people are very diverse and into many different things, this is just one of the less common ones but in essence pretty damn harmless. It's not torture, or whips or any of that crazy stuff, so it's really not that hard to do on the other side. In the end it's just a fart. Everyone does it, all the time. It's the taboo nature of the subject that makes it so embarrassing to bring up in the first place. A healthy relationship is an open one right? So be open about everything, I would suggest though in the beginning just make it seem like a joke. A game. It's really embarrassing for a girl to do it, whether she knows it's your fetish or not, and she will be embarrassed (most girls) to do it in front of you, much less in the sexual way you would want her to, idk if you're into naked farting or anything like that so I digress. Just don't pressure, keep it all nice and slow, get her to fart around you comfortably, in a normal setting, no sexual hints or anything, and eventually the both of you can be comfortable enough to do it in the bedroom. It very much depends on the girl, but most girls, again in a healthy relationship -want- to please their partner, it's a give and take thing, assuming your doing your part right :P and keeping her happy she would normally do the same for you. I'm not talking to you in specific but in general ^^
I had a few of my past ex's do this for me and it's seriously awesome. I was embarrassed yeah but I let her know slowly, and once that level of comfort was reached, she was fine with it, though I do have to note, a lot of girls consider this fetish a turn off if you keep on pushing for it (sometimes a girl just can't fart no matter what) so it's not that they don't want to, they just can't lol. All in all, keep it light, and you'll get what you want. I hope this helps if anything hey don't hesitate to ask I know how weird and touchy this subject is. Adieu~

[smitti]

u fart in front of her first. she gone be like," omg, i cant believe u did that - u stink" - blah, blah, blah. it dont matter if she laff or get mad - she's gonna get u back, more or less. then u look at her like,"so? ur point?" then play wit her a bit about it. then say lil shit like,"aw, dats cute." she gon' start laffing at u...then wit u...den u lick her ass. LMAO!!! i dunno wtf im sayin. but if she generally aint too uptight about farting, she'll like dat u like it. cuz women want a man dat can relate to them. but to speed up da process, u gotta be a pig infront of them. then they gon be like,"well, he dont care, why should i" type of shit.


MAYBE. erybody is different.

[splat]

Just tell her. Tell her you're into something weird, that you don't need her to be a part of it, but it's a part of yourself. Most likely, she will be willing to fart for you, as she wants to make you happy, though it may take some time. At the very least, she is likely to accept it, especially if she is under the age of about 40.

this is a new era- Fetishes and sexuality is no longer something that is feared and hated. I have friends who are gay, straight, transexual, bisexual, into BDSM and guro and spanking. It's really not a big deal. If she really is freaked out, then she is likely Tuna, which, named after the fish, are incapable of critical thought, or anything but swarming mindlessly.

[boredchad2009]

dude,my wife never farted infront of her ex boyfriend of 6 year.after 2 weeks of being together she was farting like a pig.i believe in speek your mind(right or wrong).fuck i had a girl who used to fart when she was cumming(i think this is where my fetish came from).i also knew a girl who used to come into my kitchen at work to fart cus she knew it would not bother me.the problem is fetish or fun(like the talk over youtube clips).if i was you(but im not)id let one go and see how she reacts and take it from there.you have the opshun of laughing or saying sorry.ps imagine how bad it will be in 5 years if you have not sorted it out. ::beach
hope i make sense.if not sorry.fart anyway.my wife and my friends know i like farts.i get mixed mixed fellings.but my good friends join in.im kind of stoned i hope yhis has been of some help.if all else fails maybe this is not the one.peace ::great

[afangorn]

I'll tell you what I did since it worked for me: curiosity. nothing bugs a girl more than a guy waving a secret under her nose but wont share.
I told my girl early on in our relationship (before we were even formally dating. still in the flirting and feeling each other out stage) whenever we brought up sexy concepts, I'd turn the conversation toward fetishes and make comments like "I've heard of worse than XXX" or "That's nothing". When she asked I'd say "I have a fetish, but I'm not ready to tell you about it yet." It bugged her but the first few times she let it go. the 3rd or so time I said this she pressed for more information and I finally relented after I made her promise not to laugh or freak out. I explained my fetish as best I could how it wasn't just the smell and sound that did it but the sense of her getting more comfortable not just with me but with herself. Sorta like seeing a girl adjust her bra but sexier and 100xs more intimate.
She still laughed :[
but at least it opened the door. it was 3 or more months later of me never bringing it up again and never talking about it unless she brought it up before she finally started telling me on the phone that she farted.
it was several months after that that she let me LISTEN to her farts for the first time
now she lets me listen to her farts whenever, unless she's feeling sick or really REALLY doesn't want to deal with me being riled up.
overall it took about 8-9 months before we got to that stage.

[kid_done_well]

I honestly wouldn't tell her if I was you, personally I prefer girls to do it out of fun rather than trying to turn me on, like the other dudes on here have said, if you do it first and shes got that playful personality, she'll do it infront of you, and if you react in the right way she'll fart around you whenever she feels the need, unfortunately there are some girls out there that will never, ever fart infront of a guy. No matter what. Besides, alot of girls are manipulative and she might eventually use it against you, so be very cautious when telling someone your deepest secrets, especially if you haven;t known them very long. Good luck buddy, hope it works out for ya.

[assman06]

kid done well must be a psychiatrist... lol... because that's true women are manipulative... my woman farts for me and even let's me smell them, and i came out and told her that i thought it was sexy... but that's a rare instance...

I say let it ride... you only have one life... but there's plenty of women...

[Vector]

It takes a few years until the woman starts REALLY getting comfortable around you farting. I told my gf about my fetish VERY early on in the relationship about 4 years ago. Just recently, she's been really indulging me and showing me what she can really do, and I'm in heaven. I've gotten her to the point where now she loves farting for me, even out in public. She was so gassy last Sunday, and gave me every single fart. I even fell asleep with my face in her ass and was awoken 25 minutes later by a silent fart... she was wearing black suede pants (those fuzzy pants girls wear) and man was I sniffing away! She realizes just how much it turns me on and how much she'll benefit from it in the bedroom. You need to explain to your woman how it will benefit her, and what it does to you!

Don't get me wrong, every sexy ass I see out there I want to sniff the farts out of, however, I'm very happy with my lady.

[afangorn]

Originally posted by kid_done_well
I honestly wouldn't tell her if I was you, personally I prefer girls to do it out of fun rather than trying to turn me on, like the other dudes on here have said, if you do it first and shes got that playful personality, she'll do it infront of you, and if you react in the right way she'll fart around you whenever she feels the need, unfortunately there are some girls out there that will never, ever fart infront of a guy. No matter what. Besides, alot of girls are manipulative and she might eventually use it against you, so be very cautious when telling someone your deepest secrets, especially if you haven;t known them very long. Good luck buddy, hope it works out for ya.
I am at a 180 from you.
first I believe you HAVE to tell her and tell her early. The reason I say this is because my girlfriend told me and I quote "If you had not told me when you did, if you had waited a year or longer after we were formally dating...I would have felt lied to. And I would have strongly considered dumping you"
Second, if you do dump her and she tries to spread rumors about that...well I think you should try to avoid those kind of women in the first place who would stab you in the back deliberately like that. But its VERY easy to play that kind of stuff off. Think about it. Suppose you were talking to your good friend John. And John had just broken up with his girlfriend, they had not been together long (lets say a year at the most), and he tells you "Dude, she wanted me to SHIT on her. The bitch is fucking crazy" would you believe him? Or would you be more likely to think "This girl pissed him off and he's trying to smear her reputation"?
It is very easy to make people believe that an ex is out to hurt your reputation because IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. People develop feelings for eachother one of them feels that the other betrayed these feelings, and they try to get even. So its not hard to imagine a girl would try to say this about her ex boyfriend. The more this girl tries to spread this rumor, the less likely people will be to believe her. At worst she'll tell her close friends who will all look at you weird. At best she'll try to tell EVERYONE and nobody believes her because she comes off as a loon who would shoot you if she could get away with it.

but maybe I'm just a bit too insular. I generally dont give a crap what people think of me.

[assman06]

vector hit it right on the head... make it beneficial to her... and it will benefit u... we think alike in that aspect...

[ninjakid01]

if your girl is cool has a playful personality and really likes you she will do whatever she can to make you happy and turn you on. i kiinda told my girl by getting her curious about fetishes like afangorn. then one day we were talkin about what turns us on, while we were on the phone textin each other, i just told exctactly what it was. she was like are you serious and i was like yeah. i dont think she texted me back for about 20 30 minutes. then she called me and i tried to explain. i told her how it started and how i found out i had this fetish. she was cool about it. she was actually like why didnt i tell her sooner but i think its best to wait a littlle while. it took her about a week or 2 to get comfortable enought to fart around me. within the week though i didnt reallly bring up the subject to much. but yeah i would wait about a week or so to really bring it u again. now she does it for me whenever she can and their really loud sometimes too. it took about a little under a month for the whole processing thing. just be honest with her and like what tehcursed said its about the timing. hope it helps.

[fartboy88]

well a little while ago I confessed to her that i wanted her to face sit me, all be it a lil awkward I got it out there naturally I was worried that she'd freak, but she didn't she told me she needed to get comfortable with the idea.

Last night she did it though it was short she did it. It's a step but I still don't know how to tell her about my fart fetish.

My question is should I wait and tell her eventually or be happy with what I have?

[footfetishguy]

Originally posted by fartboy88
well a little while ago I confessed to her that i wanted her to face sit me, all be it a lil awkward I got it out there naturally I was worried that she'd freak, but she didn't she told me she needed to get comfortable with the idea.

Last night she did it though it was short she did it. It's a step but I still don't know how to tell her about my fart fetish.

My question is should I wait and tell her eventually or be happy with what I have?

Take it slow and step by step... The awkward and comfortable will work its way in.. Just slowly and step by step

Good luck on her fartboy!

[fartboy88]

This is mainly to keep posted i feel like i owe it to you guys this is really helping me ok so now she's comfortable with facesitting and she's comfortable enough to belch around me i think i heard her fart today but i'm not sure cause she played it like nothing happened and im not sure if shes just that comfortable or if i just heard things

[medak]

dude what i usually do is be honest...be sad about it show all ure feelings with it....what i mean is be like "theres something about me u dont know about...i just dont wan to disgust u...i hate it...i wish i never had it..." then get them to promise u they wont freak out or stop talking to u..make it sound like u beat ureself up everyday about it and that all u want is the perfect someone who would atleast try to relate...also try to make them tell u sumtin that may be worse...theres always a secret...believe me man....oh and also you could tell her a differ fetish...somthing way more disgusting than urs and say ure kidding then tell her the fart one....haha i rmember when i was 17 i told this girl i liked puke...i said it all sad and convincing just before i warmed her up with what i told u to say earlier...then when i got her response i immediately started laughing and sadly told her the real fetish...farting isnt THAT gross...it really aint not compared to other fetishes...no offense to the ppl who do have the other fetishes...i like feet, smelly ass and farts...if she doesnt wanna be wit u and try to relate to ure fetish then she aint the right one for u man...your fart fetish is a part of u...u cant hide behind porn all ure life with or without a girl man so whats the point of never being 100% happy with a pretty girl that wont accept u?

[assgirl100]

I agree with Medak with trying to get her secrets as well and also testing her with some other secret.

I would say that if you are a regular bloke with average income give it a try. If you are wealthy or a public figure like a politian , judge etc. forget about it. Don't risk it.

If you are an average bloke take time to know her first, it is not something you have to tell from the start. Time will tell if you can trust her or not. You can test her with other secrets with less impact first and see where she goes with them. If she tells all her friends or her mom and dad about your other secrets even after you asked her not to forget about it.

[Olly_55]

I told my wife about my fetish while we were dating, a fart fetish is really not that big a deal. I regret I didn't tell more women sooner - so many lost opportunities.
If a woman loves you she will put up with a lot of stuff.
The way I get women talking about farting is to talk about DeSade, he had an extremely interesting life.
Be honest, you could try just saying that you are a little different and tend to like things most other guys don't, but you are a little embarrased to tell her.

[ffantasy1]

I have to agree with whoever posted to basically say something along the lines of "I have a weird fetish. It's not dangerous or anything, but I'm not ready to talk about it." She'll appreciate you being honest enough to "warn" her about your fetish, but she will also keep guessing at it. Chances are, she'll wind up thinking it's something even more extreme or weird to her than a fart fetish, so when you're finally comfortable enough to tell her about it, she'll be relieved. She'll probably even laugh about it, either because farts are funny to her, the idea of someone getting turned on by farts amuses her, or because it's a far much more "tame" fetish than she expected (or maybe a combination of all three). Laughter is actually a good sign, since it basically says she wasn't really prepared for the fetish to be for farting when she was expecting it to be something entirely different, unless she does it in a manner that would suggest she's laughing at you, though there's a much greater chance that she's just laughing at the situation.

You could also try to get her more comfortable with the idea of farting near you since a lot of girls are nervous about that sort of thing in a relationship. For example, when she farts near you, you can tell her something like "nice one" or "that was kinda cute" in a playful tone and if she's the kind of girl that can laugh at her own farts, laugh with her. That will show her that you like it when she farts, though she may not realize you have a fetish for it. Of course, you wouldn't want to give her a compliment or something every time she farts, but it would definitely help her get more comfortable with farting if you show her you're not the kind of guy that gets turned off or grossed out by it. Once she seems comfortable with farting near you, she wouldn't really mind a fart fetish (after all, you've already heard her fart several times before at that point). Of course, the main downside to that one is if you're impatient, it generally takes a long time for girls to get that comfortable with you.

As long as she loves you, chances are she won't break up with you over a fart fetish (unless you ask her to fart too often, especially when she's not in the mood). Think of it this way, if you do the first method and tease her by saying "I have a weird fetish," she's probably thinking of something much worse to her than farting. Yet during that time where she suspects you're into something she might think is too hardcore for her, she'll still want to be your girlfriend because she loves you for your personality and it would take more than some bizarre fetish to drive her away.

[medak]

olly thats exactly how i feel man...i wish i woulda told so many girls sooner...im hardly even embarrassed about it now...its so easy....if u come off as a respectable guy whos honest and caring (which i really am that kinda guy) then u should hav eno problem...like he said just let them know that ur different and embarrassed about it

[datboydrake]

what i do is do it all the time around her, and when she asks why i say im comfortable around you, and then i ask are you not comfortable around me.. she says yes, u tell her to do it to prove it.. then tell her how cute it was and that u liked it... u can sneak the rest in a later conversation

[jacave]

The way I did it was I waited for my girl to burp and I told her that I thought that was sexy. When that didn't freak her out, I told her that I was into something a little more intense; farting. So I just built it from physical, to slight fetish, to my main fetish. I think that if you spring it on her, that is bad. Build up to it.

[footfetishguy]

Originally posted by jacave
The way I did it was I waited for my girl to burp and I told her that I thought that was sexy. When that didn't freak her out, I told her that I was into something a little more intense; farting. So I just built it from physical, to slight fetish, to my main fetish. I think that if you spring it on her, that is bad. Build up to it.

Same route here.. Took it slowly and step by step to convince mines.

Sad part, should of did it way earlier earlier in our relationship to enjoy and she said probably would of been did it but I was afraid :(

[fartboy88]

thank you so much all of you, this forum is and has been a great help im lucky i found it all of the advice that you guys have given me has and still is helping me im taking it one step at a time as suggested ive also complemented on her burps told her i thought it was sexy, she thought i was joking though so any advice on how i can get her to believe me

on a side note ive let her in on quite a few of my fetishes from facesitting and shes gotten aroused off of it could that be a sign of her maybe enjoying face farting?

[footfetishguy]

Fartboy88, one step at a time...

[1313Jr.1313]

if she's getting off on these things then you should just go for it while you guys are riled up. otherwise, rushing it may set you back.

[fartboy88]

well ive finally let her know that farting and burping turn me on she actually thought it was a joke at first, but she caught on and didn't feak out she simply told me she couldn't do it on command which i know better then to ask for.

she's actually glad that i have that fetish since she's a tomboy and now she knows she doesnt have to worry about farting or burping

anyway im rambling, more to the point i want to thank everyone whose contributed some advice in any form and thank you all for showin' me that not every fart fetishist is like the ones leavin comments on youtube. Once more thank you all

[ffantasy1]

Originally posted by fartboy88
well ive finally let her know that farting and burping turn me on she actually thought it was a joke at first, but she caught on and didn't feak out she simply told me she couldn't do it on command which i know better then to ask for.

she's actually glad that i have that fetish since she's a tomboy and now she knows she doesnt have to worry about farting or burping

anyway im rambling, more to the point i want to thank everyone whose contributed some advice in any form and thank you all for showin' me that not every fart fetishist is like the ones leavin comments on youtube. Once more thank you allYoutube comments always seem to be left by really ridiculous people and it's best to just ignore them.

Anyway, congrats on telling her about it. ::great

[Kenreef]

Originally posted by fartboy88
I need some help from someone who has a gf and has managed to bring up their fart fetish. See the girl I'm with now, I gotta say, I'm happy I really am she's all I could ask for. I think she might be into this to, but I don't want to risk anything. I'd just like to know how you manage to bring up the fact that you think it's sexy when a girl farts, or even how you're on the submissive side.

Anyone who is willing to offer advise to me I'd be greatful beyond explanation.

First you don't really have to bring it up... It's better if they figure it out... When she farts just act as if you are not grossed out over time she will become more comefortable. She will fart around you more. When she does... don't move away move gradually towards her and show her A LITTLE affection. Trust me every little thing you do is picked up like a seismograph by a girl. Give it some time, trust me if you make the affection more instinctual "subconcious" that intentional "concious" eventually she will start farting on you on porpose... especially if one or two times she is in bed of something and she lets one rip and you end up after awhile end up having sex.... just give it time....

[ffantasy1]

Originally posted by Kenreef
First you don't really have to bring it up... It's better if they figure it out... When she farts just act as if you are not grossed out over time she will become more comefortable. She will fart around you more. When she does... don't move away move gradually towards her and show her A LITTLE affection. Trust me every little thing you do is picked up like a seismograph by a girl. Give it some time, trust me if you make the affection more instinctual "subconcious" that intentional "concious" eventually she will start farting on you on porpose... especially if one or two times she is in bed of something and she lets one rip and you end up after awhile end up having sex.... just give it time....I'm sure your advice is appreciated, but if you look a couple posts up, you'll see that he's already told her about it. :P